Tuesday, December 25, 2012

Happy Christmas. 12/25/12



So this is Christmas.  What have you done?  Another year older.   Another just begun  …   

I have the following things:
·         a house in a safe, suburban neighborhood
·         food, clean water, and a war-free zone
·         an extended family who loves me
·         beautiful, intelligent children
·         a roaring fire in my fireplace
·         a new, $300 Bose Soundlink wireless ipod dock with thousands of songs to choose from
·         a brand new Keurig coffee maker that rocks out amazing brews at the push of a button

I do NOT have the following things:
  • ·         a healthy marriage
  • ·         a partner to spend my days with
  • ·         friends with whom to share my life
  • ·         children who respect each other
  • ·         a life-location which suits my needs
  • ·         freedom to walk away from any of the above problems

And so, I wonder on this lovely (and brutally cold) Christmas day, if this is as good as it gets.  I wonder every day, all the time if I should just suck it up and (like shitty medicine) take this life as it is, or if I should bail.  I really, honestly don’t know.  But I’m going to share a secret with you:  there’s only so much time in this life, and spending it alone is pretty terrible.  Being lonely and alone is deeply unsatisfying and difficult.  And I don’t know how to fix it.  Being with other people makes me exhausted, because I always feel like they just want something from me.  I want to have a friend who will come around and just hold my hand and watch movies with me.  No talking.  No expectations.  And then maybe we can make some nachos or something and go from there.  I’m so sad all the time, and I am fucking sick of it.  I don’t want to be sad – it’s tragic and boring and stupid.  I should be above such common stupidity.  And yet here I am … listening to Eddie Vedder do something relevant (make music and change people’s lives) while I sit in my chair in my basement talking to a computer screen.

How much difference does any of this make?  None?  Because my life has stalled.  Full stop.  

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